tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271274831043662191.post1533356736460998247..comments2023-06-27T10:37:37.776-04:00Comments on Princess of Pout: HappinessTapestryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10168751514565148748noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271274831043662191.post-12337829318497780372011-04-13T16:56:34.134-04:002011-04-13T16:56:34.134-04:00Well I am honored indeed, thank you very much for ...Well I am honored indeed, thank you very much for your kind words.<br /><br />I would add this disclaimer - I have to work at the positive attitude. And since I'm a mere mortal with deep flaws, I do not always succeed. Generally, when I write about it here? It's because I'm trying to re-remind myself.<br /><br />Perhaps one of the tricks is not trying to be happy about the situation, but acknowledging that the situation does indeed suck. And now, since it sucks, what can I do to change it? And then get busy creating the change. Or, if it's something that simply has to be accepted, get to work accepting. A good way to do that for me is to refocus my attention and energy elsewhere.<br /><br />That all said, I will concede there are some things that are just sad. I've recently lost a dear friend. And it's sad. Death sucks. And, I choose to celebrate her life, and the influence she had on me, and the gift of her presence in my life. That outlook is the only thing that makes loss bearable for me. It's how I handled losing my Dad prematurely, and even how I handled losing a beloved pet (who was a soul mate in so very many ways.)<br /><br />So yes, the situation sucks, and it's ok (and healthy to feel sorrow) and it's also ok and healthy to feel joy at the gift of what I experienced before the loss happened.<br /><br />And I guess all this wordiness of mine is a way of saying you're surely right. Pursuing happiness, not so important. Seeking peace and serenity? Uber important.<br /><br />Peace to you.<br />TapestryTapestryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10168751514565148748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271274831043662191.post-19881626832172322912011-04-13T00:58:59.760-04:002011-04-13T00:58:59.760-04:00Tapestry, you have no idea how gratifying it is to...Tapestry, you have no idea how gratifying it is to me to find someone else talking of <i>choosing</i> to be happy. Almost everyone thinks that happiness and unhappiness are not a matter of choice but always depend on your situation. With certain situations you have to be unhappy; with others, you can be happy.<br /><br />I bore and upset unhappy people by telling them that happiness is an inside job. It depends on you and what is going on inside you.<br /><br />I concede there are some situations in which it may be very difficult to be happy. That brings me to wondering if the pursuit of happiness is a worthy undertaking. Isn't it better to be indifferent to ones emotional state? One can still be serene even if unhappy; and trying for happiness can lead to disappointment.<br /><br />My thoughts on this matter are only half-baked, I realise this; I am just trying to sort them out.<br /><br />Few people in this blog universe have the positive outlook you have, and I am glad to read your writings.Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18156162412655551672noreply@blogger.com