Monday, April 19, 2010

Power of Two

Listening to The Indigo Girls this afternoon in the car on the way home from work as they sang "Power of Two."

Lovely song, beautiful harmony. Enjoy.

So we're ok
We're fine
Baby I'm here to stop your crying
Chase all the ghosts from your head
I'm stronger than the monster beneath your bed
Smarter than the tricks played on your heart
We'll look at them together then we'll take them apart
Adding up the total of a love that's true
Multiply life by the power of 2


Saturday, April 17, 2010

Park Joys

I know I wrote in the past about walking in the park near home, and how much I enjoyed feeding and watching the squirrels. I still do. And yes, that's the same park in which I became engaged. :)

The seasons appear to have significant impact on the park. So far this spring, I've encountered very few squirrels to feed - significantly less than last fall. 2 today, instead of the usual 10 or 20 last fall. It's been that way all spring.

There are most likely many reasons for this, and my favorite notion (not based in fact at all) is that the squirrels are still in the den/nesting place having and raising and protecting baby squirrels. I am hopeful that this theory is true and in time the park will be filled with the critters again. In the meantime, I don't spend as much money on nuts right now.

There is a trade-off though. Where we are lacking in squirrels, we are flourishing with birds. They are much more active and in greater numbers than last fall. Where we saw some cardinals, robins, sparrows, and finches in the past, this spring I've noticed all of those, more of them, and also some orioles, woodpeckers, morning doves, and some others I don't know the names of.

It's been very enjoyable to watch the antics of the birds. The sleek, shiny, glossy, jet-black feathers of the oriole which is noticeable when he is perched and then the contrast of the brilliant orange when he spreads his wings to fly away from me. The amazingly vibrant colors of the cardinals in their best finery (or is that feathery?) Even the females are more orange-y than gray at this time of year. And oh the bright cherry red head of the woodpecker!

I tried a gym membership over the winter months, and discovered that while I may need to be there to be active enough in the cold snowy months, I don't like it. The stale air and the drudgery that walking on the treadmill is, make it difficult to go. But looking forward to and then enjoying all the creatures great and small that I encounter at this park situated on the banks of where 3 rivers join, make what is exercise and healthy activity seem like, well, a walk in the park!


Thursday, April 15, 2010

One Tribe

One of my fav groups, The Black Eyed Peas, sing a song called One Tribe, that really resonates with me. The song talks about how we are all connected, all one tribe, and that our differences don't matter. It focuses mainly on racial differences as you would imagine, but I think all the other differences which separate and divide us are easily included in this message.

In the "Lifestyle" Community, we are always rife with intolerance and narrow minded-ness, which, I must confess, has always surprised me greatly. The outside world (vanilla we often call them) are frequently very harsh and intolerant of WIITWD. So why would we be harsh toward one another? I would have thought that being misunderstood by others would help us all to band together. Silly me.

As it turns out, that really is just human nature, no matter where we are. I remain hopeful that love and tolerance and unity will rule the day, even as I've shed some of my naivete and realize that there will most likely always be the nasty boogers among us. Perhaps they are in the world to test us and help us grow. But really, haven't I grown enough? I don't really want to grow anymore.



Sunday, April 11, 2010

Alive and Well

I've been absent for awhile, and don't really have any reason to offer for that. I've found that it's best to go with the ebb and flow of life, and just enjoy each moment without beating myself up for doing or not doing something else. I'm pretty sure Elle has talked in the past about being where my feet are. If it wasn't Elle, it was someone else just as wise and amazing.

Life is good. W/we continue to make plans for O/our wedding, each little decision and step along the way feels good and right. Certain things were very clear to U/us and others needed to be pondered. No problem concluding that a very small, intimate, and casually comfortable affair was best for U/us. A suitable venue was found, a date agreed upon, and things began to happen more quickly after that. I confess to being surprised at the many things to do and details to sort out, even when intentionally having a very small, quiet, intimate, and casual event!

And of course while all this is taking our time and attention, life still goes on. I had foot surgery in January (recovered wonderfully from.) There is work everyday, the commute back and forth, the household chores and needs and responsibilities, and family and friends. Son has been working, and making plans to enroll in and attend college. He's hoping the test scores will be good enough, and then of course there is the financing to work out.
He continues to drive back and forth to a neighboring state to visit his girlfriend, and they've managed to work out a couple of times when he could bring her here to visit for awhile. I LOVE having her here, and really enjoy a "daughter" as well as his joy in her. They've got prom and her graduation coming up before long.

O/our lives have settled in so many ways, and perhaps that is part of why I don't spend the time here that I once did. The questions and angst and drama and sorting through of life are not at the forefront at the moment. Life is just good.

I hope that the same can be said for all of you.