Tuesday, July 13, 2010


Well, things are getting closer, the wedding is almost upon U/us, and final arrangements are in need of taking care of. I remain surprised at how many details there are to sort out considering the small, relaxed, casual, intimate event W/we have planned. But no worries, it will all work out.

The most difficult thing to accept has been the decision by one of Master's brothers to skip the wedding. He, his wife, and their children will be leaving that morning for a week-long sporting event in another state. W/we had given everyone the date far in advance just to avoid such situations, but alas, no luck.

As Master has only his two brothers (both parents are deceased) this is quite a blow. W/we are by turns hurt, angry, and sad. Probably some other emotions too, which W/we certainly need to accept and feel and process, but which are ultimately best let go of since there is nothing we can do to change it. Hopefully time will heal the wound.

In the meantime, I'm working, trying to take care of the details of getting my son ready for university in August, trying to get the wedding details sorted out, and working to find time for myself. The need to chill and relax and recharge the batteries is great upon me, even if finding the downtime is not so easily accomplished. This time spent here and reading around the blogs is sort of downtime, often something I find relaxing and refreshing. Right now I'm sad to say I'm doing 2 other things at the same time. Perhaps it's time to close for now.



  1. I just wanted to wish you all the very best as you approach this wedding day. I am sorry that there is hurt and disappointment, but I hope that the joy of the event will carry the two of you forward into this next part of your lives.

    hugs, swan

  2. That's come round so quickly Tapestry:)

    I know it must be a huge blow his brother and family not attending but don't let it sour your special day

    Hugs and love to you both and best wishes to your son starting his next journey at university.


  3. I'm sorry PD's brother's decision has spoiled things for you both in the lead up to the wedding. Its hard to accept sometimes that the most important things to us are not always seen that way by those we love.

    Remember though that emotions are like waves....and stand full square on as many happy ones as you can catch. Going to be with you all the way in spirit my beautiful friend.

    love and hugs xxx

  4. Thank you, one and all, my dear and beautiful friends!

    I am one to let things go when I'm not able to change them, although I accept that I need to acknowledge and feel the feelings first. I know I will get over this hurt, as will Master, in due time. And in the meantime, as you've all said, W/we will not allow this to mar O/our day.

    There's a quote somewhere which talks about not keeping someone a priority who makes you an option. In the case of family that can be hard to do, but I think there is a healthy place W/we can find that allows them to be less important to U/us, although more than an acquaintance. It's a delicate balancing act. And it will work out, all will be well.